How To Improve Self Esteem And Self Worth

How To Improve Self Esteem And Self Worth

How To Improve Self Esteem And Self Worth

Lets talk about how to improve your self esteem and self worth the quick and effect way. Do you often find yourself looking in the mirror and then shying away because you are not happy with your appearance? Do you find it difficult to feel confident on the job or find you always seem to settle for less than you deserve?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you need to realize there is hope in finding how to improve self-esteem and self-worth in your life. Allow this information to take you on a journey to self-discovery. Once you reach your destination, these feelings of lack and worthlessness will be in your past where they belong.


1) Visualize How You Want to Be:

We often think celebrities and all the beautiful, smart and rich people of the world have it all together. The truth is, they are often the ones with the biggest self-esteem issues. Why do you think they hire public relation managers, hairdressers, designers and makeup artists? This is also why they use Photoshop.

If you are not happy with your image, maybe it is time you photo shopped it. No, don’t go log into your computer and get to work, this is something you need to do in your mind. Simply take the image you believe to be you and morph it into what you really want.

When you can do this in great detail, begin to use this image you have created for visualization. As you focus on every minute detail from the shape of your nose to that perfect curl, envision yourself becoming this person.

Every time you are tempted to begin putting yourself down, instead focus on this image of yourself. The more you visualize, the more you will take on the attributes of who you want to become.

2) Out With the Old Thoughts, In With the New:

As we talk with ourselves day in and day out, we can have a profound effect on our subconscious mind. The constant battlement of every move you make can lead your subconscious mind to file these negatives as truth.

Do you ever wonder why you always feel the same worthlessness even though you try so hard to rise above it? The reason you feel this way is because you are constantly programming your mind to only think negatives about yourself.

Most people are guilty of saying these common self-deprecating lines:

* “I’m never good enough.”

* “I make such stupid mistakes.”

* “I can’t do anything right.”

* “I’m such a failure.”

* “I hate myself.”

As you just read through these phrases, how did they make you feel? Could you feel the tension rising in your chest and the negativity beginning to pulse through your entire body? This is what you are doing to yourself every time your inner dialog speaks negatives about who you are and what you do.

When you replace these with positives, your entire mindset begins to change. Even if you have to fake the dialog and put on a fake smile at first, it can still have profound effects on your subconscious mind.

* “I am more than enough!”

* “I always make wise decisions!”

* “I can do anything!”

* “I am successful!”

* “I love myself!”

Try speaking these positives and find yourself beginning to accept them without even realizing it. As you change your paradigm and see yourself in a newly positive light, your feelings of worthlessness and shame will begin to fade away.

How To Improve Self Esteem And Self Worth

3) Negativity Has No Place In Your Life:

Negative people often attract others who are equally negative. When we are negative, we are harder on ourselves and more critical. While self-esteem and self-worth issues are internal, they are often caused by outside forces, namely those we spend the most time with.

Unfortunately, we tend to internalize the nasty comments that are made to us more than the positives. You may have fifteen people say your hair looks nice, but you will only focus on the one person who said it looked terrible.

Why do those who are successful surround themselves with the same types of people? They do so because they know people mirror those who are in their inner circle. If your inner circle is full of negativity and people who cannot find their self-worth, you will most likely find yourself in the same row-boat, rowing against the tide.

No, I’m not saying dump all your negative friends…what I am saying, is it is time to check these relationships.

If they are not building you up, they are most certainly bringing you down. This can quickly zap your self-esteem and change your paradigm so you see the world through mud-crusted shades instead of the rosy pink ones of joy, happiness, and peace.

Change your circle of friends into people who bring positives to your life and you will begin to see your own perception of yourself dramatically change!

4) Make Your List and Check It Twice:

Have you ever thought about celebrities and big sports personalities and their accomplishments? When they win trophies and awards, do they put them on display because they look nice or because they need to be reminded of their accomplishments?

Why do you think your Mom put your report card on the fridge or pinned your awards up in your room? Yes, she was proud of you, but it goes deeper than that. Displaying your achievements and successes encourages you to look past your faults and remember they are but bumps in the road compared to the big picture.

You may not have experienced the pride of having your teacher post your drawing or good report since grade school, but you can achieve the same effects by simply making a list of your achievements. I can hear those with self-esteems issues saying, “I haven’t achieved anything.” I can guarantee you are wrong!

Sit down in a quiet place and begin to make a list of what you have achieved. It may be something as simple as passing a test, graduating, getting a promotion, or getting a yes on a date request. This is your list and you can write whatever you like as long as it is a positive achievement.

Then, I want you to go place it on your fridge just like Mom used to do. Every time you begin to doubt your worth, I want you to return to this paper and begin to list your achievements out loud. If negativity try’s to cloud your thoughts, push them away by reading your list and focus on the feeling of success.


There are many ways you can improve your self-esteem, you simply need to make it a priority. Allow these tips to get you started and begin thinking of other ways you can improve how you see yourself in this world. The trick to gaining self-esteem and worth is to never allow the two to be tied to others.

It should come from within you and never be based on what others say or do. Love yourself so others can love you too!  Always remember that you are a Spiritual Being living in a physical body. You are the offspring of a great power that has no beginning and has no end.

You have no limits to what you can accomplish in your life. If you can see it on the screen of your mind then you can do it in your life, as long as it is within reason.  Don’t ever forget that. Keep that in your mind always and it will help you to feel better about yourself. You really are special.

Please leave your comments below or any questions that you may have. I will get back with you within 24 hrs. Make it a great day. Feel free to check out some of my other articles on the mind and how to achieve success: Click Here


  • edy

    You have a great point here. I personally set my goals far ahead before taking action. It is sad to know that the majortity of people fail because they kinda want something but do nothing toward their dreams.

    • A.J.

      Eddy you are so correct. Napoleon Hill talks about that in Think And Grow Rich. Know what you want, believe you can have it, make a plan to get it, and then take action towards it. Very well said my friend.


  • Stephane

    Thank you so much for this A.J! I think you really have some awesome advice on this post. I wonder, what’s the best way to approach a friend who’s been noticeably more negative than usual? I don’t want to lose the friendship, but their negativity is really starting to bother me.

    • A.J.

      Hi Stephane. Thanks for taking the time to read this. So basically would I would do is just don’t see them as much. Still be friends but limit it. Its extremely damaging on a subconscious level to have someone like that in your life. Always be kind, positive, and optimistic around them, and don’t ever say anything negative about it, and hopefully they will catch on to your spirit of positivity. I would also start leaving them with an impression of increase like Wallace D. Wattles talks about in his great book “The Science Of Getting Rich”. What I mean is give them a comment that is positive when you are around them. Bring more good to them, buy them a drink or a whatever. Always show more positivity and love then anything else. They will eventually come around. Hope this helps 🙂


  • Emily

    great post about self-image and positivity! Negative self-talk is so strong in some that it demoralizes them. On some level we all use negative self talk and then we then to seek people who have similar thoughts. Thus a never ending cycle. We are who our friends are, who our circle is. Sometimes, we need to limit the time we spend with some and decide, actively, to turn to more positive people who will bring us up not down. It can be a hard choice but a necessary one.

    • A.J.

      You are so right Emily. I am glad that you like the information, and that you recognize how important it really is to watch who you hang out with. Have a great week 🙂

  • Campbell

    I really enjoyed reading your article, I particularly liked how you talk to your readers instead of talking at them. I try and use positive language in my thoughts daily, I sometimes find laughing at yourself when you have negative thoughts can help me turn things around.

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