Today we will be talking about the question “Why Do I Hate My Life?”. Are you having this thought, “I hate my life”? First, breathe slowly and know that you are not alone. Statistically, everyone has had this thought in their life, therefore, having such a thought is very normal. If you have been experiencing such thoughts as, “I hate my life”, you are at the right place. Below are 10 surefire ways on how get rid of such thoughts and change your life for the better.
“Why Do I Hate My Life” – How To Change It:
1. Why Are You Having Such Thoughts?:
This is the very first question that you should ask yourself. Do you hate all your life aspects? Or it’s just a few or just one aspect? What do you hate- your body? Your environment? Your job? Do you love anything about your life and do you want to salvage it? Getting to the root of what you hate you are almost making it out of such thoughts. All begins with realization. It’s very key to divide your life into components and get to know which component you hate and the ones that you love.
2. Get To The Bottom Of What’s Causing The Discomfort:
After pointing out the areas that you hate about your life, the next question to ask is why. Why do you hate these areas? Then, have a reflection on what you want to do and be specific on it too. Having an idea, the next question you will want to ask is; what is preventing you from doing what you need? The reasons that you get, are the ones that you should work on. You can solve your reasons or change your mindset.
For example, if you hate your body because you hate exercises, find a way to start loving exercises.
3. Switch Things Up:
The best and simple way to change your life and have a new momentum is do something new. It’s all about trial – new approaches and techniques. Get to know something new about the part of your life that you hate. This will help you regain traction on the part of your life that you hate. For instance, you hate your body and all you need is exercise and a better diet, start by exploring new forms of exercises and foods that you would enjoy.
4. Beware Of External Remedies:
Most people tend to use external gratifications to have their problems solved. This has been found to cause more pain than pleasure. (studies have proven this) For instance, you have a problem with your relationship and you resolve to food instead of solving your relationship problem or after a long day at work, you turn to drinking. It can be good but only with moderation. Beware of your health always!
5. Remember That Your Future Is Everything:
Your happiness at the moment is the future that you are anticipating and dreaming of. Think of your future, think what you want – fine ladies/men, own jets, a family of your own, flying and all the expensive cars. Look into the future and see what you hate now at the same time, this will give you a lot of energy to overcome what you hate now. Finally, move towards your future in your mind.
6. Use Gratitude As A Weapon Against Self-Hatred:
You will discover that most people talk about the positive things in their life, things which they are very thankful for and they are always happier. Worry and miserable thoughts can make you hate your life. Hating your life? Make a list of all the positive things in your life and use them as a strength. Remember to embrace the positives and be grateful for them. When down, go back to your list and add to it, or just read it over siliently until you feel better.
7. Build Up Your Self-Esteem:
All you have to do is have a list of your top 10 best qualities i.e. loyal, caring, in control of your environment, or good listener etc. Take your time to know what your family and friends love about you. You will be surprised to know how much people value you. Stay on the positive things only and your confidence will grow.
8. Seek Help If Needed:
Going for therapy can be very beneficial. Remember that there is nothing like seeking help, it’s a show of strength and bravery. No matter who you are and what you have done that you hate your life so much, help is always available. Organizations such as Samaritans.org, are a key resource for help. Your friends too can be a very key resource, they have always known you, talk to them on what is really disturbing you.
9. Hang Around Postive People Only:
Positive people tend to be very successful since they will always see an opportunity in every difficult situation. Hanging around positive minded people can be very motivating and definitely make changes that will make you stop hating your life so much. They say positivity is a cure to all life problems (very true and powerful) and definitely negativity is a sure killer of progress. It’s key to also let go of that hurting past!
10. Remember That God Loves You:
For God so loved the world that he gave His only Son… focusing on God’s love is a very strategic way of overcoming self-hatred. Remembering that God loves you and He tolerates all of your faults, will make you feel rejuvenated about your life. God sculpted you uniquely and that uniqueness makes you a very special person. Value your life because God does love you.
Having thoughts of “I hate my life” or “I love my life”? The real question is; who is the “I” in all these? It’s you! You are the one who will decide what you want and you can do anything for it. No one can ever live your life for you. All that you want is 100% possible, you are the one standing between your life. Turn the tables to loving your life rather than hating it. Commit to what makes you happy. The wise did say, “You are the master of your destiny.”
Have you struggled in the past, with hating your life? What did you do that really made all the difference that would help someone else? Leave your comments below and share your thoughts.