How To Get Trust Back In A Relationship

10 Tips On How To Get Trust Back In A Relationship

How To Get Trust Back In A Relationship

Trust takes a long time to build but only a moment to break. Do you know the ten ways to rebuild trust in a relationship? Many times the things we think of first are not what makes a relationship work. Some think variety keeps things spicy. Not true.

 A degree of predictability in a relationship is better than variety. Following are ten methods that are guaranteed to improve your connection with your partner and thereby get trust back in a relationship plus improve the level of trust in a relationship.

How To Get Trust Back In A Relationship:

1). Know When You Make A Mistake:

Once you know how you feel and you are determined to win your partner’s trust back, then admit your mistake to your partner and apologize. Take full responsibility for your actions and never blame what happened to anybody. 

Bear in mind that your partner is hurt for the moment, thus, never expect her/him to believe you right away. Stay calm and patiently listen to what your partner might say.

2). Be Predictable:

The common belief is that variety will keep the relationship popping and the romance alive. Trying a new restaurant or buying a surprise gift might be nice, but most people need to know that their relationship is based on consistency. Trust in a relationship is heavily based on being reliable every day.

3). Your Actions Need To Match Your Words:

Your actions should always match your words. Many people don’t hear what you say with your mouth, but what you say with your body. Your partner doesn’t hear your voice as much as they listen to your body language and the tone of your voice. When your words match your actions, trust is built in a relationship.

4). Believe Your Partner Is Competent:

You must fundamentally believe that your partner is competent. This will help you build up the trust you need in your relationship. The truth is never destructive when it’s lovingly communicated. 

If you don’t believe in the competence of your partner in some areas or all areas, the trust within your relationship is violated.

5). Don’t Keep Secrets:

You don’t want to keep secrets. They destroy trust in relationships. Open honesty is best. If you assume that everything you know will ultimately come out, it’ll be easier to just tell the truth up front. 

Past secrets call for a great deal of energy, mental and physical, as you have to remember what you said and your body negatively responds to your dishonesty. This energy could be better used in the building of your relationship.

6). Talk About Your Needs:

Let your partner know what you are in need of. Don’t make him or she play the guessing game in this area. Just tell them. You can be self-centered. Just don’t be selfish. 

Not sharing your needs with your partner could cause you to go overboard in seeking to get them while smothering your partner in the process. Many times we don’t want to have needs, but we do, like it or not.

7). Learn How To Say No:

Learn to say no and mean it. Your partner voicing his or her need is a good thing. But that doesn’t mean you are to say yes to everything. If you never say no, your partner can’t respect you. Being true to yourself will build trust in a relationship.

8). Continue To Grow:

Continue to grow. A flower can only be planted if the dirt is breached and dug into. There is dirt in every relationship. Digging into this dirt can sometimes be painful. 

But this pain prepares the soil of the relationship for future growth. Don’t let crisis, turmoil, or questions scare you. These are great fertilizer to grow and change your relationship. Remember, to be honest.

9). Be Respectful:

To gain the trust, be respectful to your partner. Be a good listener to him/her, show how you care and learn to empathize. Always be there for your partner. Showing your partner that s/he can count on you anytime will make them trust you back.

10). Don’t Be Afraid Of Hard Times:

Never be afraid of turmoil, hardship, or crisis. There is no relationship in the world that isn’t exempt from this. When a crisis has been surmounted, your relationship grows and strengthens.


Deciding to work on trust in a relationship is signing up for some pain. It’s unavoidable but necessary. As you continue working through this pain, you will personally become stronger, as well as strengthen your relationship.

If you know your relationship is worth saving, then follow these ten simple, fool-proof steps to bring back trust and improve the trust in the relationship between you and your partner and save your worthy relationship. What do you think it takes to get trust back? What have you experienced? Leave your comments below.

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  • Tyler

    Great read,
    Trust is such a hard thing to earn from someone. I have experienced little to no breaks in trust at all. I’ve been very careful in what I say and do.
    I think the reason I’ve had a good trustworthy relationship is I am always honest, sometimes when I probably shouldn’t be.

    • A.J.

      Hi Tyler

      I totally agree, its one of those situations were it can be hard to do whats right, but it all works out in the end I believe. Thanks for stopping by and reading.


  • Manasir

    Hi There it is a good one – being recently I’m getting engaged and till now in my career I didn’t had any relationship. I was in very much fear of marriage all these days as per the current situation I can see ad hear a lot on divorces. This topic is more friendly and useful to youngsters before getting married and also for the lost relationship. Thanks mate wonderful.

  • Kenny

    I think keeping secrets is the worst of all trust breakers in a relationship. I’ve made this mistake that actually killed mine. There was no recovery in sight. And if there’s anything that I can add on, it’s to stop being egoistic in a relationship. There’s no “winner” but there can be two “losers”.

  • Gabriel


    This is an amazing read. Thank you for sharing it and I will definitely be taking these tips and apply them, even if I’m single.

    BTW, I’ve been using the ‘Thought Elevators’ for about 2 weeks. Slowly bit steady it’s starting to make some effect.

    Looking forward for greater and better changes.


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